The Silent Fear: Why Women Hesitate to Report Stalking and How Technology Enables It

Stalking is a crime that leaves victims feeling powerless, exposed, and constantly on edge. For many women, the experience is not just about the fear of physical harm but also the emotional toll of knowing someone is watching their every move. The anxiety, stress, and fear that come with stalking can be paralyzing, yet many women hesitate to report it. Why? Because stalking often falls into a gray area of the law, is difficult to prove, and is frequently dismissed by those who should be protecting victims.

The Emotional Toll of Being Stalked

The psychological impact of being stalked can be devastating. Many victims report experiencing extreme anxiety, depression, and even symptoms of PTSD. Everyday tasks, like going to work or running errands, become filled with dread. The feeling of being watched—even if no one is physically present—creates a sense of constant vulnerability.

One of the biggest emotional struggles stalking victims face is the fear of not being believed. When they turn to law enforcement, friends, or even family for support, responses can range from indifference to outright skepticism:

• “Are you sure you’re not overreacting?”
• “Maybe it’s just a coincidence.”
• “They’re probably just lonely, not dangerous.”

These dismissive responses make victims second-guess themselves, leading many to stay silent rather than risk embarrassment or disbelief. The hesitation to report can also stem from the fear of retaliation. If a stalker realizes the victim has gone to the police, they may escalate their behavior, making the situation even more dangerous.

The Role of Technology in Modern Stalking

Technology has made stalking easier and more invasive than ever before. Cyberstalkers can use various tools to monitor, harass, and intimidate victims without ever stepping foot near them. Here are some of the most common technologies used by stalkers today:

1. GPS Tracking Devices & AirTags

Small, easily concealed GPS trackers, including Apple AirTags, can be placed in a victim’s car, bag, or even clothing. These devices allow stalkers to track a victim’s location in real-time without their knowledge.

2. Spyware & Stalkerware Apps

Malicious apps can be secretly installed on a victim’s phone, giving the stalker access to text messages, emails, call logs, and even live location data. Some apps even allow stalkers to remotely activate a victim’s phone camera or microphone.

3. Social Media Monitoring

Many stalkers don’t need to hack a device to gather information. They can simply monitor a victim’s social media accounts, tracking check-ins, tagged photos, and online interactions to piece together their daily routine.

4. Phishing & Social Engineering

Some stalkers go a step further by using phishing techniques to trick victims into revealing personal information. Fake emails, texts, or social media messages can lead a victim to unknowingly share passwords or sensitive data.

5. Bluetooth & Wi-Fi Exploits

Tech-savvy stalkers can take advantage of Bluetooth vulnerabilities or hack into unsecured Wi-Fi networks to gain access to a victim’s devices and private information.

How Women Can Protect Themselves from Stalkers

While law enforcement and tech companies are working to address cyberstalking, there are steps women can take to protect themselves from being tracked and harassed:

1. Check for Tracking Devices

If you suspect someone is tracking your location, inspect your belongings for unknown devices. Use Apple’s “Find My” app or other third-party tracking detectors to locate hidden AirTags or GPS trackers. Tools like the BlueSleuth-Lite can help detect and locate hidden TAGs used for stalking, while the Yorkie cell phone detector can identify hidden GPS trackers on vehicles.

2. Scan Your Phone for Spyware

Regularly check your phone for unknown apps or signs of spyware, such as rapid battery drain or unusual data usage. If in doubt, perform a factory reset and update your security settings.

3. Strengthen Social Media Privacy

Limit what you share online and adjust your privacy settings. Turn off location tagging, remove check-ins, and be cautious about who follows you.

4. Use Two-Factor Authentication (2FA)

Enable 2FA on all important accounts to prevent hackers from gaining unauthorized access to your email, banking, or social media.

5. Avoid Public Wi-Fi for Sensitive Tasks

Public Wi-Fi can be a gateway for cyberstalkers to intercept your data. Use a VPN or avoid accessing personal accounts when on an open network.  You can also use your mobile phone to host your own Wifi Hot Spot to your computer when traveling.

6. Keep a Record of Harassment

Document any suspicious activity, including emails, texts, and encounters. If you decide to report, having evidence strengthens your case.

7. Seek Support & Report Suspicious Activity

If you feel unsafe, talk to a trusted friend, family member, or professional. Reporting the stalking—even if you fear not being believed—can help build a case and prevent escalation.

Breaking the Silence

Stalking, whether online or in person, is a serious issue that should never be ignored or downplayed. Women should not have to live in fear of simply existing in the digital age. By understanding the technologies used by cyberstalkers and taking proactive security measures, victims can reclaim their sense of safety.